I am said girlfriend, and it's true, I can see why people quit their monks after major cities in the game (sorry, didn't want to spoil it for players). Most of the time we don't get to see the game. It's all just following the party and watching the health bars. Forgive me, I almost said team instead of party, but it gets so hard running in 5 directions after people when you warn them that you can't be healed if you're far away attacking 2 mobs at the same time.
Being told how to do your job also gets annoying. Spamming chat telling me "I'm dead!" or "Joe Bloggs is dead!" as if I hadn't known is irritating to say the least. I've been watching your health bar for the past 20 minutes, and I'm cursing that you're dead because it's my fault, but now you're not the most important thing here, you're dead. Give me a minute to save the rest of the party. Spamming "rez plz" also isn't helping, because that, is the least appropriate language to use when wanting something from someone. I know you're dead, the party knows you're dead. You wont be left, don't worry!!
I play healing monk, not prot, so I don't know how their lives are later on. But the few times I have played prot monk, being shouted at because I don't heal got so annoying I was forced to spec differently. People shouting "heal plz" doesn't work with prot monks. You get accepted into a party fast and then they zone or start the mission, and complain that they're buffed up to their eyes, but they're not getting life back and I'm standing around doing nothing. Take time to talk to the monkey. We don't all do the same job..
One monk will not surfice more often than not. Unless you've got a lvl10+ in Ascalon, you've got problems with just taking one. One monk cannot heal 4 warriors and an elementalist. It can be done at a stretch, but today I have had to go through some later pre lvl20 quests and going through areas swarming with lvl20 monsters. People leaving half way through the trek isn't fantastic. It aggravates the monks and degrades their skills and abilities. Leaving with the words "n00b monk, *profanities*" will really want them to stick with it.
Heal plz doesn't work. It makes me want to leave you to die. I don't tell you to "hit that" or "firestorm that", or "use axe", and I don't appreciate it back. Fine, stick mending on and /pout. See how fast you live honestly. Especially in the middle of the game, where the monsters are throwing poison and mesmer skills. See how fast you live.
No wonder monks loose interest and take up some other magic. They more often than not get nothing but backchat from other players. As Alathys says, look after the monk, and the monk will look after you. Show them the same respect that you would the other players, and they'll be great. You never blame the mesmer for not being uber powerful, give the monk the same courtesy.
(Btw, I'm sorry for the rant, it didn't mean to get this bad, I've just had a bad day with my monkey

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