1 monk
1 SY!
1 orders
5 physicals
is basic physicalway setup
if I'd run it
it'd be
1 monk
1 mesmer
1 orders
5 physicals
now I could run orders, but if I'd do so then we'd lose the Party wide healing from the dervish's air magic.
you guys got any ideas on what I should do?
either stick with lame*** casterways or go with paragons so my Hayda finally has some use

I'd really like to use like 1 motigon +1 commandagon, for increased party wide dmg + healing + damage reduction, but it just doesn't seem viable to me, after all if mesmers were good with physicalways we'd have seen them in the physicalways @ pvxwiki.com

What you could try though is an FC Curser - with the usual selection of the sweet curses with Mantra Of Recovery(for a faster recharge of MoP) as your elite. With high enough FC you could be throwing Barbs on pretty much anything on sight and that in combination with the physical army could be doable. (Although you could just go with Mindbender and Lyssa's Aura instead.)
Those are 2 of the best options to add a mesmer to a phys team. The other one i can think of its an AP caller or Evas Spammer. Except those i dont see any particular synergy between mesmers and paragons/phys chars.