All you really have to do is disable the life bond/life barrier skill and use it on the people you want the hero to bond. When the skill is disabled (through shift-clicking on it) the hero won't even touch that skill, so forcing them to cast it means that they wont go to remove it automatically.
The henchmen will automatically take care of energy management with blessed signet. From here its a good idea to give them either boon signet or signet of removal so they don't spam away their energy supporting the team. Other good skills to use are Aegis, gift of health, condition removal, additional energy management.
I had my Tahlkora setup as bonder for Pogahn Passage and other than a couple times her energy dropped a bit low (because all she had was blessed signet) it worked out and I got masters with just hero/hench. She monked with Mhenlo and her only bonds were Life Barrier and Life Bond on the stupid level 16 you need to keep alive.
It would be a good idea to bring a hero or hench with blood rit also, they tend to give monks that are bonding blood rit when their energy is at about halfway instead of at 0.
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