Originally Posted by elektra_lucia

I don't really know how I define maturity. My logic would be how well someone handles a situation, but usually those that handle a situation better are more intelligent. Which would mean that by my own logic, only the intelligent ones could be mature. Which of course is probably not the case. We are talking about the internet here. I think maturity are people that when they wish to flame you have a point to their argument and can hold up a discussion. Again, this links in with intelligence.

The butchering the English language. This is interesting, I know people in real life who are extremely mature but they type like idiots online, I also know people I've seen type on MSN and found them obnoxious, spoken to them on microphone and they're different. You can't possibly know if someone lives at home with their parents, or on their own from how they type. Personally I find the word 'kid' to be the biggest bastardisation of the English language that I have ever come across since we stopped using the grammatically correct words to 'put in' and used 'in put'. Not only do I think it is ridiculous we will be inputting our bread to the toaster, but we will forgetting about the word child and calling all our children baby goats. It wasn't the fourteen year old's who caused this either. This is not a dig at your post by the way, I notice you use the word kid a lot. It was a general thing.

I do not hold the view that you have to lose a leg , get beat up in school, have a rough time in life and lose your family to be 'mature'. I think if you have to go through all of that to behave mature you aren't mature at all. Maturity should be about your personality and not what forced upon you. When you are beat up, raped, lose a family, anything ridiculous like that - you are forced to become a different person. People often don't put up an emotional brick wall by choice, sometimes it happens and they simply can not help it. Hiding your emotions like this certainly isn't mature. I think that showing emotion takes more maturity. It shows you can feel comfortable.

So does that mean because I can go to work and not give a DAMN what anyone thinks about me mean I am mature? Debatable, it could just mean I'm confident. So I think that maturity can be a mixture of things, but I don't know quite what mix of things. Maybe the intelligent people have sharper tools to do the work (find it easier to be mature).

I can't quite define what being mature is, but I know what it isn't. I also know that people who claim to be mature and say 'get a life' aren't mature. This is a computer game we are talking about. So long as you are a nice person and good at that game, don't talk like a retard and interest me somehow you are perfectly mature enough to me. I don't care if you don't have a job, a girlfriend, a house, any pets.

As for the people who have had a rough life they may think they're mature by putting up their emotional fences and what not but the bottom line is. Half their behaviour is out of their control and they develop so many 'hang-ups' that they can't have an open view to things. Which again in my opinion is immature. Older people tend to form views on things, often based on ignorance by experience. It is some what of a paradox (I think you could say?). They experience something in their life (opposite to ignorance) but then they think all things of a similar nature will result in the same outcome (ignorance). Often people can't put aside this, and that makes them immature.

The men who go to the pub talking about what a great screw they had the night before. This is disrespect and immaturity.

The women whining non stop their husbands never help or that all men are arseholes because they happened to have dated ten arseholes in their life. This to me is immaturity they may not think they have attracted (or are attracted to) arseholes.

Maturity can be understanding, but that doesn't mean you should have had to have slashed your wrists to understand what a suicidal person is like. The brain is fairly logical, so you can work things out with reasoning but again, intelligence will tie in with maturity.

Maturity is probably also accepting the fact you could be wrong. So it's basically all things like:

Understanding a situation.
Being open about something (admitting you could be wrong).
Being open about yourself (showing emotion).
Being confident (learn not to care so much).
Dealing with problems.


With that in mind, no one is ever mature. You don't hit 26 and become mature. You may be more mature than others, but that doesn't mean you become this finished, glazed, priceless vase. Even if that were the case, it wouldn't matter. You'd soon go back to wetting the bed, losing brain cells and relying on your family again.



Experience can make for more ignorance, because you form views which can turn to a stubborn behaviour preventing you from further knowledge. You could say a mature person can discuss politics. Again, it may just be something people find more interesting when they grow up and again, often their views are based from experiences. As far as I'm concerned, fourteen year old's can behave maturely enough to be my friend on the internet. I wouldn't be their friend in real life probably but in real life they might act less mature. You can think more about what you are going to say on the internet I think. We think of mature as good. Is it maturity when we begin to stop hating foods and start liking them (classic example is that more children dislike sprouts). With maturity being 'good', perhaps this is actually a faculty. Who's to say that the grass wasn't greener when people liked sweeter things?

The bottom line is though, generally when someone says things like: Oh it's ok, you're just a kid. They're trying to insult you for behaving childish, yet they're the ones behaving like children.



Can be said to older people. Like the ones doing boring jobs that really don't contribute much to the world. They don't really understand how the real world works. It's all relative and if it takes someone twenty five years, a boring job and lots of labour to understand what some maturity is, they are not mature people.



The adults smart enough to pay off their mortgage probably won't be the ones wasting time talking to you. They'll be mixing with their friends or family.



Truthfully? I don't really have a big enough picture to form an opinion based on what you've said but this is what I think so far:

Loner. Low self esteem hypocrite (no offence). Firstly, you want to put yourself in a category. Someone who does that probably spends too much time judging themselves. People that spend too much time judging themselves, want to fit in. The people that shout and scream when the teacher leaves the room, want to gain attention and fit in. That makes you a hypocrite because you called them immature. Also, you'll tell someone to study for an exam or what not, but when the teacher leaves the room you'll fall asleep, keep a low profile and / or draw. Neither of which is working, just because the teacher left the room. Don't waste time thinking they're immature or try labelling yourself. They're probably happier than you . That's all what matters in life.

Please don't be offended by what I say. It's only an opinion based on what little you've said.

Originally Posted by elektra_lucia

Experience can make for more ignorance, because you form views which can turn to a stubborn behaviour preventing you from further knowledge. You could say a mature person can discuss politics. Again, it may just be something people find more interesting when they grow up and again, often their views are based from experiences. As far as I'm concerned, fourteen year old's can behave maturely enough to be my friend on the internet. I wouldn't be their friend in real life probably but in real life they might act less mature. You can think more about what you are going to say on the internet I think. We think of mature as good. Is it maturity when we begin to stop hating foods and start liking them (classic example is that more children dislike sprouts). With maturity being 'good', perhaps this is actually a faculty. Who's to say that the grass wasn't greener when people liked sweeter things?

Originally Posted by [M]agna_[C]arta

I am no lonr, I actually hae friends.
I speak to my classmates alot but I do not play around, make fun of teachers, make pranks, be spoiled or childish, nor fancy myself for hi-grades.
I am not anti-social, have actually more than 20+ friends if I try to count them all.
I don't find the reason why run nor shout about such trivialities.
And I never said they were immature, I was talking about me different from my classmates.

@freaky naughty
What are your grades?
And what school do you study in?

Originally Posted by ensoriki

Bottom Line
your immature if you have never played a video game.
Your also immature if you say Video games suck >.>
And your immature if you don't like penguins
Forcing my opinions on you, makes me mature, it shows my Alpha Dog techniques.

This is not sarcasm.

Originally Posted by ensoriki

Bottom Line
your immature if you have never played a video game.
Your also immature if you say Video games suck >.>
And your immature if you don't like penguins
Forcing my opinions on you, makes me mature, it shows my Alpha Dog techniques.

This is not sarcasm.

Originally Posted by Rexion

stop trying to make your steriotyped age-group look better...
you are what you have been branded, get over it.
now play the game, stop QQ'ing.

Originally Posted by Cale Roughstar

Aparthied - Whites are better than blacks, the blacks had better get over it.
Segragation - Whites are better than blacks, the blacks had better get over it.